I ____take you ____to be my wife/husband.
I promise to be true to you
In good times and in bad,
In sickness and in health.
I will love you and honor you,
All the days of my life.
This is my solemn vow.
I recently ran into Danielle – her mom, Becky, is a good friend of mine. Danielle’s youngest child, Declan, is six months old. About six weeks ago Danielle noticed that Declan wasn’t using his left hand and was overcompensating with his right hand. She took him to the pediatrician and so began the most hellish 24 hours of her life.
Making a long story way shorter, within the span of 24 hours, Danielle and her husband Ryan were told that Declan might have a brain tumor, then they were told he might have cerebral palsy until finally they were informed Declan had had a stroke while in the womb. His left-side motor skills were impacted.
While the prognosis is good for the long haul, for Danielle and Ryan it has been an indescribable roller-coaster of emotions.
And yet Danielle told me that she and Ryan are stronger now than at any point in their relationship. They know they will survive – and thrive.
I’ve said it here in this blog many times before – it is always such an honor to bear witness to a couple’s vows. I’m in awe as I witness a couple make that leap of faith. BUT, I also know that no couple fully comprehends just what it is they’re vowing. How could they?
How could any couple truly appreciate what those bold words mean, “in good times and in bad; in sickness and in health”?
Danielle and Ryan didn’t fully understand what they were vowing. BUT they are grateful they made those vows BECAUSE it is those vows that are giving them the strength they need now for Declan and for each other.
My hope for each of my couples is that their vows will be
that wellspring of courage – and joy!