Putting Your Wedding Day In Perspective

Inclusion Wedding

For it was not into my ear you whispered, but into my heart.  

It was not my lips you kissed, but my soul.

Judy Garland

Earlier this week I officiated a micro-wedding for an out-of-town gay couple that had decided to combine their wedding and honeymoon. They invited just ten relatives and friends. The ceremony was held at their hotel that had a breath-taking roof-top view of LA.  

When I arrived, Frank clasped my hand and said, “I’m so nervous, I don’t know if I can say my vows.” I reminded him that there would only be ten people, to which he nervously responded, “that’s a lot!”

The point is, it doesn’t matter if you’ve invited ten people or twenty times ten people. It doesn’t matter if you’re straight or gay. A wedding is an out-of-body experience!  

While I “get” why people are nervous, at the risk of sounding obnoxious, I have to ask: “But why are you nervous? What are you telling yourself that makes you scared?”

I know this is a heretical statement – BUT – your wedding day is not “the” most important day of your life.  

Your life together is an ongoing series of most important days!

I think your wedding day is “the” day that can be a touchstone for all those other “most important days.”


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