Last week. . .
The Procession had started. I was in position.
The groom, Eric, took his place next to me.
He looked out and then leaned in and in an awed voice whispered,
“This really is surreal!”
Duh – It is!
And what surprised me is that throughout planning, he had a relaxed, almost blasé approach to it all.
You don’t know it just yet – BUT
YOUR wedding ceremony is an out-of-body experience and there’s no way to predict how you’ll feel. . .
Just enjoy it all!
Last month, I officiated a wedding – we were five minutes from “show time” and the event planner had sequestered me with the groom and his groomsmen.
At one point, Pete, the groom, turned to me and with some exasperation said,
“This is stupid! Why am I a mess?”
The groomsmen laughed.
It’s probably one of the best questions I’ll hear all year!
So, why was Pete a mess?
While I can’t say for certain, I think it has to do with what the writer Madeleine L’Engle claimed:
But ultimately there comes a moment when a decision must be made.
Ultimately two people who love each other must ask themselves how much they hope for as their love grows and deepens,
and how much risk they are willing to take.
Because it is the nature of love to create,
a marriage itself is something which has to be created,
so that, together we become a new creature.
To marry is the biggest risk in human relations that a person can take.
No wonder Pete was a mess!
No wonder we all were so thrilled to bear witness as they reconfirmed their commitment to taking this BIG risk and to creating a life-giving life!
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check out my book,
How to Plan Your Wedding AND Stay Sane!
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If so, I invite you to check out my book –
How to Write Your Vows: Giving Voice to What Is Deep Within