More Thoughts on How to Write Your Vows!

More than 50% of my couples initially tell me that they intend on writing personal vows. Of that 50% I’d say 49% eventually reach out to me in something of a panic – “How do I write my vows? What should I say? How long should they be?”  Well, here is what I tell my couples. . . Begin with a memory, an image, an anecdote, that brief story you cherish because it captures so much of the two of you …

Marriage = One Long, Grand Conversation!

photo: jesse leake   A happy marriage is a long conversation that always seems too short. Andre Malroux    true story One night I grabbed dinner at my favorite local bistro. The staff knows me and brings me “the usual” without my having to ask. I was lost in a book when I happened to glance up and look across the room. Two tables lined the opposite wall.   At one sat a young couple in their twenties – laughing, …

And Now a Word From Meryl Streep!

In her Oscar acceptance speech for playing British P.M. Margaret Thatcher, Meryl Streep spoke directly to her husband, saying: “Everything I value most in our lives, you have given me.” What a stunningly poignant thing for a person to say to their spouse!  And so I invite you to consider these questions as you prepare to offer your vows: Can you say the same thing to your partner? What do you value most? What does your partner value most? What …

The Real Woman Creed

  I came across this item and filed it away. I’ve got two nieces and five goddaughters and I thought this was something I’d like them to read (and embrace!). . .   It then occurred to me that this is actually a wonderful “creed” for any bride and so I’m sharing it here.   I’ve looked for “The Real Man’s Creed” and couldn’t find one. Grooms – any suggestions as to how your creed should read?   The Real …