10 Questions You Might Not Have Asked Your Partner

sarah zimmer photography   When we talked, I felt brilliant, fascinating; she brought out the version of myself I like most. Nadir Alsadir   Recently I learned that close friends of mine (not the couple in photo) are divorcing after twenty years of marriage. I was / am stunned. I had no idea. Not a clue.   This blog is about weddings and not divorces. About beginnings and not endings. Yet, it’s been hard for me to write as I …

6 Easy Ways To Personalize Your Non-Denominational Wedding Ceremony

As a non-denominational wedding officiant, almost every weekend I stand before a couple and bear witness to their vows. And each time, as I look out on the gathering of family and friends, I realize that the couple before me will probably never know just how much they are loved.   For me, a wedding ceremony is a HUGE hug that family and friends offer to the couple.  Yes, at its core, the ceremony honors and celebrates the love and …

So What Is The Value of Pre-Marital Counseling??

  When not officiating non-denominational weddings here in Los Angeles, among other things I teach at UCLA Extension. Last month I finished up my eleven-week course, The Dynamics Of Interpersonal Communication.    All of my communication work – including my pre-marital communication coaching – is based in the belief that we all do what we do and say what we say for a reason.  No one “just is.”   Flowing from that is my conviction that in every relationship, over …

A Celebration of Choice in Los Angeles!

  I recently had a final meeting with a couple who are getting married next month. During a leisurely Starbucks conversation, the groom, Max (names changed, said this to me:   “I had to reach rock bottom in past relationships before I could find Kate I had self-imprisoned myself in a gulag of abuse. I knew I wanted better and so I set out in search of Kate.”   The old cliché that marriage is a “ball and chain” made …

Do You and Your Partner Laugh Every Day?!

http://moorephotography.com   Anyone can be passionate, but it takes real lovers to be silly. Rose Franken   I recently happened on an old issue of Vanity Fair magazine, in which fashion designer Marc Newsom offers a profile of fellow men’s wear designer Paul Smith. I happen to really like Paul Smith shirts and so I was curious to learn something about the guy.   It’s an affectionate tribute, but the real gem from the piece comes in the last sentence.  …